displacerghost:

geoffacakes:

supersciencegeek:

My child is autistic. He doesn’t do well with change. Even little things that would be meaningless to most people.

For example, his hairbrush was getting old and worn. He had chewed the end of it. The cats had chewed some bristles. It was dirty and dusty. But I didn’t say anything. Because it’s his hairbrush.

Finally, he said he thinks it’s time for a new brush. Ok, I say, we’ll put it on the shopping list, and get one next time we’re in town.

So we go to town and we go to the store. There are many hairbrushes to choose from. He picks one and they even have it in his favorite color. We buy it, take it home, and remove the packaging.

I go to put it on the shelf where the old hairbrush is. Can we throw out the old one, I ask.

That’s when he stops. That’s when he freezes and gets a momentary look of panic on his face. Throw out the old one? That hadn’t occurred to him.

Because here’s the thing. Hair brushing is a part of his morning routine. And not just hair brushing, but hair brushing with that particular brush. To most people, the act of hair brushing is the routine, but not the brush itself. The objects are interchangeable. But not to my child. Not to someone with autism. The brush itself is just as important as the act of brushing.

So I take a breath. I put the old brush down. Think about it, I say. Let me know tomorrow what you want to do with this brush.

He decides. He realizes keeping an old hairbrush is not necessary. But it’s still important to him. So he asks if I can cut off one bristle. To keep. As a memory of the old hairbrush.

I don’t laugh. I don’t tell him it’s silly. I respect his need. I cut off the bristle. He puts it in his treasure box, along side some smooth rocks, beads, sparkly decals, a Santa Claus charm from a classmate, a few other things meaningful to him.

He throws the old hairbrush away himself. He is able to move on, and accept the change.

This is a great way to help an autistic person move on properly, instead of forcing them to get rid of it you let them use their own method and left them feeling safe. Congrats fam👏👏

For me hyper empathy is also part of this and I have to like, grieve for things like this. And approaching it that way, as grief, as legitimate bereavement instead of pushing myself to treat it the way NT’s in my life had taught me (dismissive, mockery, “it’s just a hairbrush wtf why are you like this”) has really helped in these kinds of situations. 

I don’t laugh. I don’t tell him it’s silly. I respect his need.

I wish I’d had this kind of understanding and safety in my childhood. It teaches you how to be safe and understanding to yourself.

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bloowing93:

Hace unos dias vi una serie de gifs de Marie Kondo explicando que a la hora de ordenar nuestra ropa debemos elegir la que nos produce felicidad, y para no sentirnos mal por la ropa que queremos botar, agradecer el tiempo que estuvo esa prenda estuvo con nosotros y dejarla ir..

Esto me llamo la atención y luego en Netflix descubri que habia una serie de ella, donde va a casas de personas y las ayuda a organizar. Me gusto su método y quise compartir algunos de sus consejos con ustedes. Quien sabe. Siempre se aprende algo 😉

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rojas-c:

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atheismwethinkmore:

Look.    Vaccinate your kids.

Y’all are so DAMN EDGY.

FYI, it’s their right and choice not to vaccinate their kids just as much as it’s yours to post dumb fucking memes on the internet.

Love, from someone whose entire family wasn’t vaccinated and is still alive and well.

i hope you realise how much of a goddamn idiot you are

You’re alive and well but how many times did you pass germs that could have killed someone who is immunocompromised (a word here meaning, compromised immune system, weak immune system, easily infected and killed by basic diseases)? Just because you don’t have symptoms doesn’t mean you don’t have the germs.

People are dying from measles out here and you’re so fucking selfish go think “hurrdurr I’m okay so everyone else is too!”

When what you choose to do or not do to your body affects other people in a way that could kill them it’s no longer just your choice.

So please for the love of God do some fucking research about this. If you’re allergic certain vaccinations that’s fine, that’s what herd immunity is for. But when a lot of people go unvaccinated then that’s when disease begins to spread.

If someone got bit by a rabid animal would you say, “oh, vaccines are unnecessary, walk it off sweaty! :)”? No you wouldn’t, bc that shit kills.

Even the most basic of diseases can kill in the right conditions.

fixed it

If your antivaxx I’m just gonna put in my mind and others, that you’re a murder

^^^^ That part

i remember seeing an article where someone said that vaccination is mandatory because it’s a responsibility just on equal footing as drafting. You may not want to do it because it’s scary but you have to in order to save your country

don’t compare getting a life saving vaccine in a tiny ass needle to unwilling people getting blown up on IEDs for their “freedom” halfway across the world for an oil company

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dspressed:

Just a reminder that Vincent van Gogh did not eat yellow paint to make himself feel happy, he ate paint, and drank different chemicals because he was suicidal and this is why he was not allowed in his studio while having breakdowns. He also did not paint starry night and his other great works because he was depressed, he painted most of them while he was in recovery and demonstrated his hopefulness and love of the world through this. Most of his great works were painted from his room at a hospital. Van Gogh’s depression should not be glorified. His hope and effort toward a better life, as well as his recovery from depression should be glorified.

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thestarkbitch:

Why tonight’s episode was so important to girls and women (Battle of Winterfell spoilers)

Let me just get it on the record right now: Arya Stark killing the Night King is going to get a lot of shit, especially from the male book snobs. But let’s just take a moment and revel in the fact that they can complain all they want about how Arya didn’t fit into the prophecy as Azor Ahai because it still won’t do shit to change the fact that she is the prince that was promised. She brought an end to the Long Night. She did that.

Throughout the three years that I’ve been a member of this fandom, I’ve read all the books, watched every episode as soon as I could get my hands on it, watched all the theory/explanation videos, and from the very first time I was introduced to her in the books, I singled out Arya Stark as my favorite. On New Year’s Eve of 2016, my family adopted a puppy, who we named Arya Bark because she was everyone’s favorite character. I’ve spent more hours than I’d like to admit studying her every movement in an attempt to understand her character, and having this episode now, having her being the one who killed the Night King, I’ve genuinely never felt more proud of a character in my life.

So many people said that it would be Jon and/or Dany because they represented ice and fire, they were the heads of the dragon, they were Azor Ahai and Nissa-Nissa. But let me just say, this was 100% Arya’s moment because the Night King and the whole war between the living and the dead wasn’t about ice, it wasn’t about fire, it wasn’t about dragons or wolves, it wasn’t about honor and shame, it was about one thing and one thing only: Death. Throughout this series, we have seen Arya’s relationship with the god of death shift many times. In season one, under the training of Syrio Forel, she defied death. (“‘What do we say to the god of death?’ ‘Not today.’”) In seasons two through four, she witnessed death. In season five, she served death. (Valar morghulis, valar dohaeris.) In season six, she cheated death. (She spared Lady Crane and then defeated The Waif when she came to kill her.) And finally, in season 8, she faced death, and defeated it, once and for all.

This time last week, straight men everywhere took to twitter to talk about how “wrong” it was for Arya to lose her virginity because they still saw her as a kid (apparently violently murdering 50+ people and then wearing their faces didn’t do the trick). But she showed everyone in that episode that she didnt give a single fuck about what they thought, she saw what she wanted, she knew who she wanted to do it with, and she did it. She controlled the situation, but still gave Gendry agency (“I’m not the Red Woman. Take your own bloody pants off.”), which is honestly the only time in all of Game of Thrones that I can recall a woman losing her virginity in an empowering way on her own terms. And then this week, she showed us how you break the glass fucking ceiling. That moment when The Hound had stopped fighting and told Beric that it was pointless, that you can’t defeat death, and Beric pointed at Arya and said “Try telling that to her!”, my heart just swelled with pride. She never once let herself get overwhelmed by the sheer amount of wights that she was fighting, she just kept going. She knew that as long as there was still an enemy in front of her, she still had a job to do, and she didn’t hesitate to do it.

Arya Stark is easily the strongest character in this series, female or not. She’s been defying expectations and breaking all the rules since day one, saving the innocent and killing the guilty. She stared death in the face, had him holding her by the neck, and instead of giving up, instead of giving into fear, she adapted, and thus saved humanity. In this season alone, Arya Stark has proved to the world that women can be badass warriors as well as loving and caring family members and still be sexually empowered and desirable. She’s proving that you don’t need to pick one, that women truly can have it all.

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lifequotesandbooksuniverse:

“Stories you read when you’re the right age never quite leave you. You may forget who wrote them or what the story was called. Sometimes you’ll forget precisely what happened, but if a story touches you it will stay with you, haunting the places in your mind that you rarely ever visit.”

— Neil Gaiman

tiredbtw:

ah yes, my train of thought, or as i like to call it, the Anxiety Express

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bookishdiplodocus:

I got an ask from @therska about this, and it turned into a larger post.

First of all, it’s called comic relief because it relieves the tension. I can’t talk about comic relief without talking about tension.

1. A note about tension

Why would you want to relieve the tension? Research showed that if you write your tension as a steady line (horizontal but also upwards), it feels as if there is no tension at all. If you push your tension up and let it fall back again and again, the reader is on the edge of his seat, eager to know what will happen next.

Comic relief is a literary device you can use to create that breathing space that momentarily brings the tension back down.

This is a simple graph I made. In reality, I use comic relief not four but probably closer to a hundred times in a book, and the instances are not that long. Sometimes the comic relief is only one sentence long. It doesn’t have to be a whole comedic scene in between the thrilling ones. It can be, though.

2. A character created for comic relief

The easiest strategy is to write a character you can use again and again for the comic relief. A well-known example is the squirrel from Ice Age.

This character can be clumsy, be a goofball, have bad luck, spew funny one-liners, anything. You can use any kind of humor technique for your comic relief character. Characters like the squirrel serve no other function but comic relief, which makes them one-dimensional.

The downside of a specific comic relief character is that once readers realise it doesn’t have any other function, the relief becomes less effective. Another downside can be that it’s difficult to justify why this clumsy goofball stays part of your gang. Why do they take him along on this adventure when he keeps screwing up?

3. Comic relief ingrained in your story

A more difficult but more rewarding strategy to write comic relief is to use your existing characters or the situation in which your scene is set to momentarily bring breathing room. Again, you can use any type of humor strategy.

The advantage is that your character is well-rounded, and you don’t have to justify why the character is there. This form of comic relief makes it harder for your readers to realise what you’re doing, and if they do, they don’t feel cheated.

For example: the essence of Deadpool is his comic relief. His deadpan remarks, silly poses and sarcasm defuse the tension again and again. This results into a film that’s not an just action movie, despite all the fighting.

4. Comic relief as distraction

You can use comic relief as a strategy to distract the reader from what you’re doing. Did you just drop a big clue, or threw in some foreshadowing? Do you want to plant a red herring without making it too obvious? Throw in some comic relief immediately afterward.

J.K. Rowling does this often in her Harry Potter series. For example, when Ron and Harry are in Divination class and Harry is told his tea leaves predict the appearance of the Grim, a death omen who looks like a big dog, this foreshadows the appearance of his godfather, who takes the shape of a big dog. Immediately after that, Ron says something ridiculous he sees in his tea leaves, which deflects the readers’ attention.

I hope this was helpful. Don’t hesitate to ask me any questions, and happy writing!

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